Ever have that explosion where you scream about every small little thing that happened within the last three months? I have! And it is absolutely terrible!
It’s because we allow all those little things build up! Instead of communicating and discussing the little things as they happen, we save them up for that big blow out fight like they are ammo against the other person.
This topic has been on my mind a lot recently since I’ve been teaching communication classes. It made me think about how I communicate with others especially my significant other. I find that I tend to either avoid conflict by not talking about things or blowing up about every little thing. So either I suffer in silence or I punish anyone around through my screaming and anger.
That makes me ask myself: What can I do about this?
First, I can make sure I speak up about stuff when it happens. Instead of not saying something until I explode at a later date, I can say something at the moment.
Second, I can make sure to monitor my emotions and only speak about it when I’m calm rather than angry.
Third, I can try to see the other person’s perspective. I can ask myself things like: Why are they saying this? Why do they want to do this? Where are they coming from? What are their intentions?
Lastly, I can make sure that my body language matches what I say. If my fists are clenched and I’m wearing a scowl on my face, it doesn’t matter if I’m trying to tell the person the best news in the world. They are going to assume I’m angry.
What are some of your communication skill tips? Please comment your responses!