You read that right. I think it is perfectly fine to be selfish. Let me explain. All through life we are taught that we have to share, to put others before ourselves, to care about others. But when are we taught to think about ourselves?
Today at work, I was putting in a PTO form to have a long weekend in August because I can feel myself getting burnt out. My coworker saw me. She said: “well I need this day and this day just so you know.” You see in my office, time off is first come first serve. She was telling me that to tell me that I needed to pick different dates; however, she had also told me that she hadn’t put in the request for it yet. So what did I do? Now I could have been nice and put her first by picking different dates….hint: I wasn’t nice.
That’s right. I ignored her insinuations and statements and put in for those dates anyway. In the past, the old me would have caved and changed my time off request to different days (in fact I had already picked different days because someone’s else in the office had asked off for my first choice before me). Currently, I’m working on being a person who cares and takes care of herself.
I believe that it’s time we taught our young people and children that it’s ok to do what we need to do to care for ourselves. That we don’t always have to submit to other’s wishes just because it would be nice or helpful if it means we suffer for it mentally, emotionally, spiritually, or physically. It’s time for us to move on from being a people who cater to everyone else’s desires to a people who care about our own needs.
Why would being selfish be beneficial?
We would be healthier, happier, and calmer. We wouldn’t be afraid of offending others at every turn nor be offended by everything. We would understand the value of caring for ourselves. Our families wouldn’t be so broken. As a nation, we would be completely different. It’s important to be aware of what we need for ourselves in order to care for others. We cannot pour into others if we are empty ourselves. It’s so important to refill our stores.
What comes next?
I’m working on myself and being selfish. I am being serious. I am speaking up for what I need now. I’m not letting people walk all over me anymore. I am making plans for myself. I’m working on losing weight. I’m taking time off. I’m taking care of my son. I’m doing me. Anyone who wants otherwise can get in a long line that is being ignored. Either you support my needs and me or you are against me. And I think we all need to be a bit like this altogether. I still love everyone. But I also love me. Do you love you?