I’ve never been a homemaker. I’ve always been the lazy one. The one to let my fiancé do the heavy lifting around the house while I worked a full time job 40 hours a week. I let him do the cleaning, cooking, and taking care of the baby. I hid behind excuses of “I’m too tired” or “I worked all day to pay the bills”. Recently, I decided that this had to change. On Wednesday, August 1, I had a bad car wreck where I rolled my vehicle leaving me hanging upside down. Luckily, I wasn’t injured seriously and only had a sore back. But it was eye opening for me.
I had become so complacent in life that being observant wasn’t the norm for me anymore. I was doing things in a trance and being lazy and unproductive. It was a terrifying experience that forced me to look at my life and decide what I really wanted. Before I could do that, I realized I had abandoned something really someone that had never abandoned me, and I needed to rectify that. I had to rededicate my life to God and turn back to him. So I did. I still am doing that. It is a daily choice of mine.
Once I did that, I realized what I wanted most was to make this house I’ve been living at for almost three years a home. I wanted to make my relationship a partnership. In other words, I wanted to not only be a career woman but also a homemaker. So I threw myself head first into it.
I started cleaning tackling one thing at a time. I have decided to do certain chores daily and certain chores weekly. For example, I will do dishes daily and do laundry 3 times a week. I started doing my own Bible study daily. I am working on making these things a habit. It is not easy especially with a 20 month old!!! But I know it will be worth it. My relationship with my fiancé is improving because he is no longer the only one doing the work around the house. Liam is in daycare (another cost AHHHH) and getting on a schedule where he sleeps through the night! I feel better about myself and find myself having more down time because I’m not stressed about what isn’t getting done around the house.
I’m still on this journey of becoming a homemaker. And my journey probably doesn’t look like your journey. Guess what? That’s ok! It’s ok that we are all different. We learned from each other, support each other, and love each other because of those differences.
What journey are you on right now?