My month long Hiatus.

From April 10th to May 10th I will be taking a month long break from blogging.

Why?

Many reasons. Here we go:

  1. April is going to have a lot of change in it and I don’t want to be struggling to keep up.
  2. Mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically I am exhausted.
  3. My relationship with my fiancé and son are suffering from the amount of time I spend on my blog and promoting my blog.
  4. I want to provide you all with the absolute best articles I can and with my state of mind and being as it is, that isn’t what you are getting.
  5. It’s time to focus on other ventures that will push my life in a forward motion.
  6. I want to connect with people. In real life. And on Twitter by having the time to interact on twitter with no thoughts to a new blog post and no ultimate goal of drawing them to my blog.
  7. As for the real life thing, I plan on being on my phone and computer MUCH less than I am currently.
  8. I want to get all aspects of my life in order. I want to strengthen my spiritual life. I want to clean and organize my house.
  9. If I receive an opportunity that is in the works, it means making a decision of moving and going through that process.
  10. and last but not least, I want to fall back in love with blogging and writing. Somewhere along the way I lost that love.

Will I be back?

YES! This is not the end of Article Alley. Only the beginning. I don’t plan on taking any longer than a month though if I need to I will extend it. When I return I’ll have new material and be a better person able to pour into all of your lives the way I wish I could and want to.

 

Until then, talk you later and see you on Twitter!

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5 Things I’ve Come to Appreciate

Over the last week (through all the chaos which you can read here), I’ve come to appreciate 5 things. These 5 things weren’t things that I wasn’t thankful for prior, but rather, they were things I took for granted. Without further ado, allow me to share them with you…

1) An amazing clinical supervisor.

My clinical supervisor at work is absolutely amazing. She is everything I need in a boss. She is understanding, caring, and helpful. She listens when I need an ear and forces me to take care of myself when I’m more likely to ignore my needs. I couldn’t have made it through the chaos without her.

2) A wonderful fiancé.

I am engaged to the most wonderful person who supports me in everything. He takes care of me especially when my mental health is at a low. He understands me and makes sure that I don’t go too far into a rut. He provides love and care for me daily listening to me cry about the chaos at work, my fears, and my deepest desires. He stays home with our baby during the day so that I can have my 40 hour a week day job.

3) A mother who loves me unconditionally.

This past weekend my mother surprised me and took me wedding dress shopping. While there, I lost my purse. When the store found it later, my mother drove the three hours there and back on Monday to pick it up for me because I wouldn’t be able to make it there with my work schedule. She treated my fiancé and I to brunch at Cabernet Steakhouse for Easter. She also traded her GMC Envoy with my beat up Jeep liberty that had no air conditioning because she wanted me to be comfortable driving to and from work and driving my baby around. If that isn’t love, I don’t know what is.

4) A stable job.

I’m not going to lie: last week, I wanted to quit my job. I hate it some days. I’m overwhelmed and lost on where to start first in my job. I struggle daily. However, it is a steady paycheck that pays the bills. It is a steady paycheck that buys me what I want when I want it. It is a paycheck that has allowed me to save over 1400 dollars. It’s a good job. It’s a challenge which I enjoy. I enjoy learning the new things I learn daily despite the stress.

5) Good friends who believe in my skill.

I have a friend willing and wanting to pay me to do freelance work. It will be my first freelance writing job. He’s willing to take a chance on me for his business that he is starting up. I can’t believe it and am so freaking excited about it.

 

What have you come to appreciate recently?

Fear of Failure

This week sucks! Absolutely completely sucks. I’ve never felt more like a failure than I have this week when it comes to work. It just seemed to be one thing after another this week. I can feel the anxiety closing in and overwhelming my world. There wasn’t a day that I came home from work feeling good about myself. Every single day, I laid in bed feeling worthless and horrible about myself and my job.

I’m such a hypocrite. I teach and tell my clients that all you can do is your best and that failure only occurs when you stop trying. Yet, here I am not taking any of my own advice. I’m starting to realize why they all hate me saying that to them. I found a story online that I used for one of our community meetings where I spoke. I feel like sharing it with you now:

I Am Powerful

Author unknown

I am very powerful!

Whatever I set my mind on having, I will have.

Whatever I decide to be, I will be.

The evidence is all around me.

The power of my will has brought me precisely to where I am right now.

I have made the choices. I have held the thoughts.

I have taken the actions to create my current reality.

And I have the power to change it into whatever I want it to be.

With the choices I make, I am constantly fulfilling the vision I have for my life.

If that does not seem to be the case–

then I am deceiving myself about what I really want.

Because what I really, truly want, I will get!

What I truly wanted in the past, I already have.

If I want to build a billion-dollar business, I will take the actions necessary to do it.

If I want to sit comfortably watching TV night after night–

I will take the actions necessary for that.

Don’t be disappointed in my results–

they’re just the outward manifestation of my priorities.

I will be sure of what I truly want,

because I am sure to get it.

 

I found this one evening after coming home with a tight knot in my stomach while looking for something to use in my next time speaking to our entire community. Something about it hit me and motivated me. Did that solve any of my anxiety? No. No. It didn’t. This week I was forced to come face to face with the fact that I’m not anywhere close to where I want to be. I have a lot of work to do which is scary.

So what are you going to do about it?

First, I’m going to do whatever I have to get on my feet and running at work. If that means I get there early and stay late, then I will get there early and stay late as much as I can.

Second, I’m going to learn better time management. Time management is where I’m struggling right now and it’s overwhelming.

Third, I’m going to work on learning to not beat myself up over my mistakes. I’m going to work on taking my mistakes and turning them into lessons learned.

Lastly, I’m going to manage my anxiety. I’m going to do what relaxes me at night because quality work won’t happen if I don’t manage it.

How was your week? Did you feel the experience of failure this week? How are you overcoming it?

 

Anthology Time!!!!!!!

Yes, this is another article about the anthology I’m in, and I’m not sorry! I’m so thoroughly excited! My final draft is turned in, and we are coming into the home stretch with formatting and promoting!  First, I want to thank our two co-founders, S.E. Isaac and Josette Reuel (Read about them Here and Here)! They have been absolutely fantastic!

This story about a scaredy cat has been soooo much fun to write! So much in fact that I’m making my story a series so stay tuned for the information on that in upcoming articles! If you are interested in buying the anthology for $2.99, heres the Link.

Why is it $2.99, that seems a bit high? It’s $2.99 because it is TEN stories, 150,000+ words, and a portion of all sales go to the Wounded Warrior Project! You are most certainly getting your moneys worth buying this anthology. It is a paranormal romance. If you want more information about the anthology, check out its facebook page here.

I hope you consider supporting this anthology by preording it and joining us on the fb page!

Guide to claiming scaredy 1

The Sunshine Blogger Award

sunshine blogger.jpgA while back sometime last week (that seems so long ago!) I was nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award!

I was nominated by Christina Marie who you can find on twitter at navig8happiness or Here. I love the aesthetic of her blog and she always ALWAYS has amazing content so check her out!

Here are the rules:

1)Thank the blogger who nominated you and link back to their blog.

2) Answer the 11 questions that they asked you.

3) Nominate 11 new blogs to receive the award and write 11 new questions for them.

4) List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo on your post/blog.

Now time for me to answer the questions she gave me!

1) Do you still live in the area that you grew up in?

This is such a full complicated question! Originally, I was born in New York and lived their until I was about 8 maybe until I moved to Georgia. Once in Georgia I lived in the Gwinnett area until college when I moved further North where I’ve stayed!

2) If you could give up one need (eating, sleeping, bladder, etc.) which one would you choose?

I think I’d give up bladder because who truly enjoys interrupting what they are doing to go to the bathroom?! I would be so much more productive if I didn’t have to stop to use the bathroom.

3) What is one thing you have learned about blogging?

I’ve learned so much about blogging that it is hard to choose. Recently though, I’ve learned that it’s important to write about what I want to write about as opposed to what I think others what to read. Also I’ve learned that it’s hard work! (kinda cheated by giving two…SORRY).

4) What is something that you do every day to boost your mood?

Simple: I read.

5) Do you see films when they are in theatres, or wait until they are released on DVD?

Depends on the film, honestly. However, for the most part, I wait until they are released on DVD. There’s nothing like the comforts of home.

6) What restaurant is your favorite?

I struggle so much with the favorite questions! It never stays the same, but right now my favorite would have to be IHOP.

7) Do you have a niche on your blog or write about whatever you want?

Like I said earlier, I’ve found it extremely important to write about whatever I want.

8) What is your earliest memory?

My earliest memory……..uhhhhh…..my memory sucks. I remember my mom and first stepfather getting into an argument where he dragged me into it before walking out on us.

9) Tell us three things that are on your bucket list.

One thing is traveling to Italy. Second, I want to publish a book. Third, I want to travel to Australia. (I love traveling and experiences).

10) What is one blogging goal you have?

I want to eventually get to where I post at least 3 articles a week and get at least 30 views on each article each week.

11) What are your favorite posts to write or read?

My favorite posts to write are ones that concern self-care, mental health, or addiction. My favorite posts to read are a lot of the same ones as well as travel stuff!

As for the people I nominate, follow me on twitter to find out: @AlleyArticle!

Here are my questions:

  1. What is your number one fear?
  2. What is your least favorite food?
  3. What was your favorite family vacation?
  4. If you could achieve only one thing in your entire life, what would it be?
  5. Why did you start blogging?
  6. Who inspires you?
  7. What is your best personality trait?
  8. If you could go on a date with one character from literature, who would it be and why?
  9. Do you prefer to read or to watch movies?
  10. What was your favorite birthday memory?
  11. What are you passionate about?

 

I hope you all enjoyed learning more about me and hope those nominate enjoy doing these questions!

Please Don’t Go I’ll Eat you Up…

…..I love you so!

Where the Wild Things Are was my favorite book growing up. My mom would read it to me reading the voices differently. I liked to pretend I was little Max going on a grand adventure.

This line always stuck to me. It does now as I have to let go of clients who are ready to go home. Not because I love them, but because I’ve gotten accustomed to working with them and helping them learn to cope with their problems. I don’t want to start working with a new caseload and let them leave because I got comfortable. That’s dangerous…Getting comfortable.

I’m so proud of the ones who are ready to go and have been taught all they need to be taught. It’s time for them to fly. And it’s time for me to step back and turn my attentions on the new people desperately in need of my help. It’s time to spread my wings to fly as well.

It’s time to allow myself to stay in a state where I’m uncomfortable. How? Well, I’m going to try something new every day no matter how small it is. I’m going to challenge myself to doing something productive everyday. It can be simply cleaning something I’ve never bothered to clean before, reading a book I normally wouldn’t read, or talking to a stranger. Who knows what it will be daily. Part of this goal is to not only keep me in a constant state of uncomfortable to where I’m growing, it is to change my lifestyle and get out of a rut.

What do you do to get uncomfortable?

 

 

Food, love, Life

Food=Love=Life.

Seriously, food can make any day better. Good food that is. I’ve never been much of a cook. I could make grilled cheese, premade mac n cheese, and eggs when I went to college and until now. That’s it. I’m 22 almost 23, and I graduated from college last May.

I’m just now learning how to truly cook. I never had the interest to learn or do it before, and honestly, I still don’t like to cook. However, as a mother and fiancé, it’s about time for me to learn. Since graduating college and moving into my fiancé’s house, I’ve learned how to cook all things chicken, make chili in the crock pot, make a pot roast, and yesterday, I did my first attempt at cooking salmon. Yesterday’s meal turned out pretty good too!

I don’t cook every night or even every week like I probably should though. My son is currently in occupational therapy to learn to eat from a spoon and stuff since he’s a bit behind developmentally in that way and working full time is exhausting. I’m truly not sure how my mother or any of you all do it every day and work full time and be parents.

What are your favorite recipes and what should I try to cook next? Leave your suggestions in the comments!